I have long been a proponent of social networking sites - in the belief that they bring people of like mentality together for a common cause. Tonight, I have had an incident that has severely shaken that belief.
I have a Myspace site - not a great one as I have had other fish to fry and haven't had the time to "pimp" out this site as much as I would like. However, I definitely tried, as I know this is where the young and young at heart hang out. I sent my 14 year old daughter a Friend" invitation several times, only to have it rejected and have her tell me " Do you know how lame it would be to have your Mom as a friend on MySpace?". Tonight, I found out why.
Her ten year old sister has a MySpace login and is a friend on her site. She showed me her big sister's site, and I found that the feature attraction was my daughters, and that of a friends' "butt" shot in tight jeans. Not cool!!!!! I also had the honor of reading the many comments that followed this rear view - many of which were from males who seemed to not have any knowledge of who my daughter or her friend were , but who had many comments ranging from " Whoo hoo" to " Wow- nice rear".
I am sorry, but parents should NOT be blocked from a 14 year old's site - and bad people CAN hack into a site even if it is set to Private. If MySpace wants to prevent these types of issues, why do they allow a 14 year old to block out their parents from seeing who is looking at their butt????
I have left a very pointed and direct comment on the MySpace comment board. I was, very recently, a sales rep for a UK based company that was inking a deal with MySpace to detect porn photos in their content : Image Analyzer. From that engagement, I do know that all the social networking companies are concerned about underage exposure and pedophilia. But that still doesn't answer the question as to why parents can be blocked out of their kid's sites on MySpace? And the Image Analyzer software is designed to detect nude shots but not clothed shots. Clothed shots can be just as suggestive and damaging if clothing is tight or minimal.
So far, nothing that I have direct knowledge of has happened to my very attractive teenaged daughter. Maybe these are just her "friends" who are viewing these shots.
I still think social networks (I am actually starting one for geeks) are a good idea - but parents HAVE to be able to monitor what their kids put up on the web, and kids have to understand that nothing that goes up on the Internet is truly private. Nor does it go away.
All these crazy YouTube videos and pictures that teens place on the web may come back to haunt them some day - and I am sure many of them will be very embarrassed when they do.
What are other parents doing to keep their kids from "overexposure" in Cyber Space? Comments anyone??



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